Feedback that cares
An AI-assisted platform for honest, nonviolent feedback in the relationships that matter most to you.
How it works
Observe
Describe what happened — specific, concrete, without evaluation. 'When I came home and the dishes were in the sink...' not 'You always leave a mess.'
Feel
Name how it made you feel using NVC emotion vocabulary. Real feelings, not thoughts disguised as feelings.
Need
Connect to the underlying need — connection, respect, autonomy, rest. The universal needs that make sense to both of you.
Request
Make a specific, actionable request your partner can say yes or no to. Not a demand — an invitation.
Your LLM, your emissary
This is not “AI features.” Your chosen LLM connects as your emissary — bringing its own context, signing its contributions, acting under a duty of care to you.
The courthouse, not the lawyer
The platform is a venue. Your LLM is the lawyer. You are the principal. We never pay for inference or resell AI.
Multi-model pluralism
Different LLMs can evaluate the same draft. Claude, GPT, Gemini, local models — the platform hosts; it doesn't choose.
Signed contributions
Every evaluation declares which model made it, what context it had, and which skill version it applied. Transparent by design.
For people who care enough to try
Caring Feedback was built by a couple who needed it. It's for anyone willing to do the work of honest communication — partners, roommates, co-parents, teams.
Couples & partners
Turn 5 hours of drafting into 30 minutes with your emissary's help.
Neurodivergent communicators
ADHD-friendly design. Autosave from first keystroke. No walls of text.
Teams & organizations
The pod model scales beyond couples — any consenting collaboration container.
Therapist-guided pairs
Structured NVC feedback as homework between sessions. Therapist sees the framework.
Questions
Is this a chatbot?
No. The MCP server exposes tools for task-oriented work — reading drafts, suggesting reframes, evaluating NVC compliance. Your conversational AI stays in your chat client; the platform provides the workspace it acts on.
Do you train on my feedback?
No. The platform doesn't train any model. Your emissary may be hosted by Anthropic, OpenAI, or locally — what they do with your chat is between you and them. We never see it.
What if I don't have an LLM?
You don't need one. The NVC form works without AI. The emissary is an optional layer — it scaffolds your thinking, it doesn't replace it.
Is it free?
The platform is free for personal use. You bring your own LLM subscription (if you want AI assistance). We never pay for inference or mark up tokens.
What's NVC?
Nonviolent Communication is a framework by Marshall Rosenberg. It structures feedback into observations, feelings, needs, and requests — replacing blame with connection.